Let us all become doers and not just thinkers. Let us not have those regrets…
The Regrets of the Dying…as said
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
This is the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings freedom which very few realize, until they no longer have it.
then comes the second one…In case of those who have had their dreams fulfilled…
I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This comes from every human being. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. They speak of this regret.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.
The key is not only hard work, It’s along with wise work.
Regrets do not really end…. For those who have been wise in their work.. They still have regrets..
“I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”
Many people suppress their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settle for a mediocre existence and never become who they are truly capable of becoming. Many develop an illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carry as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
The people who do not to have any of these regrets are good managers of their life.. They have really worked on managing things.. But life is not just about being a good manager.. It’s a lot more than that..
So the regret they have – I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.
Even though they lived a decent life.. The love and relationship were the opportunity cost of managing their own life.
People who are able to manage their life and simultaneously not let the love and relationships build over the years slip off.. Become Leaders… Leaders who have a vision for even bigger things… That comes from within because their life is sorted.. It’s time they sort the life of others.. In spite of every individual having the ability to make it to this level.. and not have any of these regrets.. very few make it here..
Then for those who make it here… Regret…
I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.
But very few of these leaders realize this.. Most of them get caught in the web of the problems their standing for and working to resolve.. They are saddened by the damped results.. They are saddened by the people’s understanding.. and many more things.. However they can choose to be happy while working on all those results.. Happy from within.. Happy for many reasons..
Happy for the Hope they have!
It’s still a great deal -If they manage to have that last regret only…
Because there are only a handful, who have not had these regrets at all
Now the choice is entirely in our hands.. We can choose to bamboozle our self.. OR …. Work in such a way that we do not have any of these regrets when we die..
We can be donkeys working hard when we die, We could be managers working wise when we die… OR we could choose to be Leaders…
Leaders who find their happiness in what is difficult to say what is impossible, for the DREAM of yesterday is the HOPE of today and the REALITY of tomorrow.